The NEW Sandwich Generation

I am struck by the shifting demographics of the so-called “Sandwich Generation.” Sure the term has been somewhat overplayed, but the new reality is this: more adults in their 40’s and 50’s are faced with caring for young families, while at the same time caring for often very elderly and frail parents.

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91-year old gets hip replacement!

Yes, that’s correct. My 91-year old, feisty, Irish client just got a hip replacement. The orthopedic surgeon said in another country with a different healthcare system, she would probably not be able to have this surgery. The hip will surely outlive her, but this was a matter of quality-of-life.

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Senior living options: when “FREE” is not really free

You’ve probably seen the ads on TV with a famous person promoting “free placement” services for Mom or Dad. Sounds great right? But consumers don’t realize these service are not actually free. The consultant—aka placement service—gets paid a commission by the facilities they contract with. That commission is the equivalent of a full month’s rent. That is a considerable sum, reaching as high as $9,000-$10,000 here in the Northeast.

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Unearthing and Burying Ancient Sibling Rivalries

Many adult children I encounter who are taking care of their aging parents, struggle to work together with their siblings. Relationship issues from childhood return when faced with the need to collaborate and communicate about parents.

In what becomes a form of role reversal, adult children find themselves needing to get involved in healthcare, finances, and day-to-day care needs of those who once cared for them.

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